When having no problem is a major problem
I got used to saying “no problem” to every single thing that crop up. From young, I was raised by my parents to run errands and contribute my part for the family. I have this unwavering belief that saying “no problem” is a resounding proof that I am reliable.
Admittedly, I desire for validation and approval.
Not until I recently questioned my thought process and realised that saying “no problem” to everything is actually a passive and lazy way to every encounter.
Until now, it amazes me how I can utter no problemo, just to avoid a delicate situation and rather work on to the request, which sometimes can be difficult. Even more unbelievable; sometimes it would be easier for me to turn down and say “not this time, bud”.
I cursed myself whenever I say “I’ll take care of it” in an assuring way, while kicking myself in the process.
Oh yes, I took a pause and begin to question myself while reading How To Save Your Own Life.
“Sometimes having no problems is a major problem”
The sentence struck an intense, major chord in me. When you’re exposed to problems or difficulties in life, you are forced to deal with it and hopefully attempt to discover and learn from that situation. People who were “denied” these lessons —e.g. kids with overprotective parents, out-of-touch elitists— were indirectly taught to be afraid of everything that resides outside their comfort zones.
Okay, back on it
This habit of saying “no problem” is paralysing:
- Just because someone thinks I can do it doesn’t mean that I should.
- Being a doormat. Someone might see you as easy prey and may attempt to encourage manipulation.
- Saying no sometimes doesn’t harm and in fact a healthier way of action; I run errands sincerely without resentment.
Wrapping up
I learn to be conscious of my words from now on and consult my inner self before I commit to anything.
For every word I speak has power over me.
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